Usually I post my Sunday message scripts, but here is from yesterday’s message, via Facebook Live:
The Deepest Longing Of Every Human Heart Is To Be Near To God!
For this Lenten Journey, I want us to look at the most profound statement ever made by Jesus while He was here in our human form. We are going to be in John’s Gospel looking some of the “I-Am” sayings of Jesus—those moments and situations where He identifies Himself in a very specific way.
Let’s lay the groundwork for today’s passage before I read it to you. Moses had this unbelievable encounter with God. We call it “The Burning Bush” story. God tells Moses to go back to Egypt and inform them that God has appointed him to lead them to the Promised Land.
But before Moses agrees, he wants to know who it is that is sending him. They will want to know who has sent him, so Moses poses the question: “Who shall I tell them sent me?” And in that moment God reveals His true Name: I Am Who I Am! In Hebrew, the word is Yahweh! And God goes further with this statement:
This Is My Eternal Name, My Name To Remember For All Generations.
Why am I telling you all this? Because without this knowledge, nothing that we look at this season will be really understood. The first one we need to look at is from John 4:4-26 (N.L.T.).
He had to go through Samaria on the way. Eventually he came to the Samaritan village of Sychar, near the field that Jacob gave to his son Joseph. Jacob’s well was there; and Jesus, tired from the long walk, sat wearily beside the well about noontime. Soon a Samaritan woman came to draw water, and Jesus said to her, “Please give me a drink.” He was alone at the time because his disciples had gone into the village to buy some food.
The woman was surprised, for Jews refuse to have anything to do with Samaritans. She said to Jesus, “You are a Jew, and I am a Samaritan woman. Why are you asking me for a drink?” Jesus replied, “If you only knew the gift God has for you and who you are speaking to, you would ask me, and I would give you living water.”
“But sir, you don’t have a rope or a bucket,” she said, “and this well is very deep. Where would you get this living water? And besides, do you think you’re greater than our ancestor Jacob, who gave us this well? How can you offer better water than he and his sons and his animals enjoyed?” Jesus replied, “Anyone who drinks this water will soon become thirsty again. But those who drink the water I give will never be thirsty again. It becomes a fresh, bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life.”
“Please, sir,” the woman said, “give me this water! Then I’ll never be thirsty again, and I won’t have to come here to get water.” “Go and get your husband,” Jesus told her. “I don’t have a husband,” the woman replied. Jesus said, “You’re right! You don’t have a husband—for you have had five husbands, and you aren’t even married to the man you’re living with now. You certainly spoke the truth!”
“Sir,” the woman said, “you must be a prophet. So tell me, why is it that you Jews insist that Jerusalem is the only place of worship, while we Samaritans claim it is here at Mount Gerizim, where our ancestors worshiped?”
Jesus replied, “Believe me, dear woman, the time is coming when it will no longer matter whether you worship the Father on this mountain or in Jerusalem. You Samaritans know very little about the one you worship, while we Jews know all about him, for salvation comes through the Jews. But the time is coming—indeed it’s here now—when true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and in truth. The Father is looking for those who will worship him that way. For God is Spirit, so those who worship him must worship in spirit and in truth.”
The woman said, “I know the Messiah is coming—the one who is called Christ. When he comes, he will explain everything to us.” Then Jesus told her, “I Am the Messiah!”
We need be begin our journey with boldest statement ever made by a human being. Jesus tells her: I AM! For what I am about to say, some would want to tar and feather me and run me out of town, but I’m going to say it. Jesus did not say “I Am”. Now, you look confused. “Preacher, you just read that Jesus said I Am.”
But Jesus did NOT say I Am—because He did not speak English. Jesus spoke in both Aramaic and Hebrew. So when He identifies himself to her, the word He used is Yahweh! The Eternal Name of God that everyone is to remember! Can you imagine the shock on this woman’s face when Jesus identified Himself as Yahweh? It was a name so sacred that Law prohibited its use in public. No human being since Moses was allowed to use that name.
And no one dare named their child Yahweh! Yet this is the name Jesus calls Himself. What were the first thoughts running through her mind? “Is he crazy? Has he been out in the sun too long? Is he playing mind games with me? Is he mocking me because I’m a Samaritan?” Whatever her first thoughts might have been, they didn’t stay long.
Somehow she knows His words ring true, so she runs back into Sychar with the news, telling everyone she can find: “I’ve found Him! I’ve found Him!” And the people may have laughed, “Who, husband number 6?” She catches her breath, “No, no, I think I’ve found Messiah! I just know He must be Messiah!”
I know it says she asked a question: “Could He be the Messiah?”, but it’s not a question of doubt. Hers is the question of hope. And here’s the One Thing you need to remember today:
The Deepest Longing Of Every Human Heart Is To Be Near To God!
Hers may have been a tarnished hope, or it may have been a secret hope that no one could see in her life. But somehow, deep down in her heart, there must have been that hope that God would come near to her to satisfy the deepest longings of her heart. As we make our Lenten Journey, we need to know that we are going to find that same longing in our heart—to see and experience the nearness of the One, True and Living God. And we can count on Jesus being that just for us, as He was for her! And it is all because of The Name: Yahweh! Jesus is Yahweh and here’s why:
1. He Is Yahweh Because He Looks For Us
Jacob’s Well was the place ordained by God for this woman. He Has A Place Ordained For You, To Meet Him Face To Face, For You To Surrender Your Life To Him. And Jesus planned it out for that moment when she would be coming to draw water. As Jesus and his entourage arrives at Jacob’s Well, Jesus announces, “Guys, I need to stop and rest; besides it lunch time. Tell you what, go into town to McDavid’s and get you something to eat, and bring me back a #7 combo. I’ll just wait right here. Now, go on guys.”
Have you ever wondered why Jesus sent them ahead while He stayed behind? Well, I have and I’ve come to this conclusion. If there had been several of them with Jesus, that woman probably would have stayed away. But just one man there, it’s not as threatening to her. Jesus wanted this moment with her. He had been looking for her and the time was right.
And He looks for us. There are God-ordained moments where He is looking for us. He is looking for us to have this special relationship with Him. God wants us to have more than a mental knowledge about Him. He longs for us to give Him our hearts. But God-ordained moments go further than for us to become a Christian. There are God-ordained moments to comfort us, encourage us, strengthen us, and to take us deeper into this relationship with Him. And you never know when they will appear. This woman came in the middle of the day; not the usual time to draw water. And God may surprise you with ordained moments because He is always looking for us.
2. He Is Yahweh Because He Knows Us
Everyone in Sychar must have known this woman. Five divorces and shacking up with another man. They looked at her and saw someone who couldn’t keep commitments. They saw someone who had no morals. They saw someone whose only contribution to the community was to keep the gossip lines hot. They saw her as dirtied and all messed up. They saw everything that was wrong with her. They thought they knew her. But there was so much about her they could not see because they had made up their minds about her. But Jesus knew there was more to her than what was on the surface.
Only God, Only The One Whose Eternal Name Is YAHWEH Can See Into The Deepest Recesses Of The Human Heart.
He sees the secret sins we hide from others. He knows the dark secrets we keep pushed down deep. But He knows more, much more. He knew what she was truly longing for, and He knows what we are longing for. This woman wasn’t ignorant of God’s promises. She knew one day Messiah would come. Though it may have been a weak hope, there was the hope that Messiah would come to save her. Listen to your heart; your heart knows it wants to be known deeply and intimately by God.
3. He Is Yahweh Because He Offers Us Life
At Jacob’s Well this God-Ordained moment was for one single purpose: To Bring Real Life To This Dirty, Broken Woman! It wasn’t an accident Jesus was there. It didn’t just so happen that this woman appeared. She needed life and Life is what Jesus has to offer. Nothing Can Give Us The Life We Long For, Only Jesus.
Some people settle for a life of thrills, but there are never enough thrills. Some settle for a life of wealth; but there’s never enough. Some settle for a life of respectability—but they are hollow and empty inside. This woman was looking for life through one relationship after another. But none of them satisfied the cravings of her heart.
Nothing in this world can give you real, abundant, lasting, eternal life. This is something only God has—Jesus is Yahweh because only HE has the life that we hunger for. Only He Has The Life That Will Survive The Ups And Downs Of Life Here On Earth. Only Yahweh can offer us this kind of life—and He does it as The Gift. He and only He paid the price necessary to take away the dead things of our life, and put in their place Life. It’s not just any ordinary life, but the most extraordinary life of all—His Very Own Life.
It is His Eternal Name, Yahweh and He is looking, looking for you because He knows you. He knows you need more than an ordinary life—but the most extraordinary life of all. Only Yahweh, only The Great I Am can put the life of Christ in you. Since you can’t follow Jesus and stay where you are, here are your Next Steps:
- Identity Anything That May Have Robbed You Of Hope. The news; This controversy going on in our Tribe; Guilt; Some fear, named or unnamed; Crushing grief that you keep holding on to, that you never completely give over to Jesus; Feelings of inadequacy. It’s the thing that is limiting your potential. Once you identify it—
- Give It Up To Jesus. Make it your offering to Him. He’s not looking for only the good things to offer Him, He wants the pain, the burdens that you carry to be given over to Him. You don’t have to keep carrying them because He carried that weight, while on that Cross!
Last Tuesday I was on my way to the hospital in Tupelo, Mississippi to see a parishioner and a very good friend who has Stage 4 cancer. I’ve been praying for his healing and it seemed like God wasn’t listening, or at least doing what I thought He should do. It’s about an hour and a half drive from home, so I had some time to do something other than thinking, about my friend and my soon to be 94 year old Dad. He had been having a difficult week. I needed a distraction–not from my driving–but from my thoughts.
I decided to listen to some podcasts from one of my mentors (who doesn’t know me)–Andy Andrews. I find him insightful and humorous. God knows I needed a laugh, and I hoped Andy wouldn’t disappoint me. He didn’t. But about 15 minutes into my hour and a half drive, the podcast was interrupted by a text. So I did the safe thing and found a place to pull over and check out the text. And here is what I saw:
I started to reply with one word: Thanks. But that would have been deceptive by me. So I told my friend, Matthew Winters, exactly what I was struggling with. By the way, Matthew has started blogging again with a new direction. You can check him out HERE! Commercial over, back to Monday’s Musing.
At the moment I needed help, God sent me help. But it took someone else to bring me that help. In this case, it was Matthew. And this morning I’m thinking about a particular passage, Philippians 2:4 (NLT)
Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.
That afternoon God spoke and Matthew was listening–and God’s grace once again renewed my heart and mind. Matthew took an interest in me; his heart was directed to me; and Matthew was obedient to God. And here’s the point I want to make, and it’s in the form of a question:
God is wanting to help someone who is in a struggle–and He’s chosen you to send His help. ARE YOU LISTENING?
Only by having a deep walk with Jesus and The Holy Spirit can you be in a place where you can hear God speaking. Like a 911 Operator, God is saying, “Help is on the way!” Make sure you’re “on call” to receive His Dispatch.
Love God with all your heart. Love others the way Jesus loves you. And make sure all the glory goes to Him!
So far my Saturday Stories have been about moments where God shows up in unexpected places. Well, this Saturday Story is about what the phrase “young and dumb” looks like…in me.
STUCK IN THE MUD
It was back in 1977; I had my first pick-up truck. One day I decided to take it off the paved road through some trails. I had been on this particular trail before, but on a dirt bike. It had rained that week and my truck was only a two-wheel drive, but I felt confident I knew that trail well enough to stay out of trouble.
Things were going pretty well, I had made it through some rough parts of the trail when I came upon a place in the road that was covered in water. I stopped and looked at it carefully. I knew what this place in the road looked like when it hadn’t rained, so I decided on a course of action that would I felt would take me safely to the other side.
I really believed that if I backed up a bit and went through the right side of the mud hole I could get to the other side. I really believed I could get to the other side. So, I backed up a bit and moved full speed ahead. Now, I believed I was well on my way to the other side. About one-fourth of the way through I slowed a little but I kept on going, confident I was about to get to the other side.
About two-thirds of the way through, I found that my faith in my reasoning ability was wrong, seriously wrong. My truck came to a complete stop and would not move. No matter how hard I tried, I remained stuck in the mud. This was in the days before cell phones, so there I was, miles from the main road, and not another person in sight. My choice and my decision were seriously flawed even though my confidence was high. There I was on LaGrange Mountain, alone and stuck, unable to go any further, or even go back. It was the middle of the week and the likelihood of someone coming along in another truck was the same odds as a snowball’s chance in that certain place.
Just then I heard a dirt bike coming down the trail. Good news to me. Better news he stopped. Best news was he went back to get his truck and a chain and pulled me out of my created mess. Reflecting now on that “young and dumb” moment, I wondered why did this stranger decide to go riding that day? And of the many off-road trails, he ended up where I was stuck in the mud. Call me simple-minded and naive, but I think God may have been at work that day–even though I wasn’t aware of it.
The Moral Of The Story
Our choices and decisions can be…often are flawed. Without the right information that fits the situation we can end up where I was that day in 1977, stuck in the mud. But because of His Grace, God has already been at work. He’s ready for our “stuck in the mud” moments. It may not be as dramatic as a lone dirt bike rider who had his truck and chain ready to help, but God knows where we are, what we are facing–and best of all, He has a plan–and if we follow His plan, we get unstuck.
Addendum to my story: Once I got unstuck, I went back the way I came in and left that mud hole in my rear view mirror. I learned enough not to try that again! Allow God to help you make more than good choices, but the best choices of all.
“This morning is hell!” Doesn’t sound nice, does it? Yet this is exactly what many are feeling; not just a morning feeling–but an all day kind of feeling for many. It’s because of the Great War And Horrible War. And yes, even this Preacherman understands this feeling–because sometimes. . .it’s the truth about me. If you think this isn’t you–Remember The Eighth Command–Don’t you dare lie–to others, about others, or even to yourself! I know it says “your neighbor”, but who lives closer to you than YOU?
Satan knows which buttons to push. His strategy in this Great And Horrible War is rather simple–but effective. Successful military strategists understand this and put it into practice–if they want to win a battle. Satan’s strategy is this: Hit At The Weakest Points! He does this daily. . .constantly. And the casualties he causes–though they won’t make the news this evening–are mounting up into catastrophic proportions.
And one of the weakest points in many lives, even mine, is our Will! But something my mentor, Andy Andrews, is teaching me is that our Will is stronger than our feelings. But the Opposing General doesn’t want us to believe this truth. There’s much I could say at this point. . .but I defer to someone with more battle scars than myself–a guy known as Paul. Read carefully what he wrote in Romans 7:14-25. This is my personal autobiography. Here’s what it looks like from The Message:
14-16 I can anticipate the response that is coming: “I know that all God’s commands are spiritual, but I’m not. Isn’t this also your experience?” Yes. I’m full of myself—after all, I’ve spent a long time in sin’s prison. What I don’t understand about myself is that I decide one way, but then I act another, doing things I absolutely despise. So if I can’t be trusted to figure out what is best for myself and then do it, it becomes obvious that God’s command is necessary.
17-20 But I need something more! For if I know the law but still can’t keep it, and if the power of sin within me keeps sabotaging my best intentions, I obviously need help! I realize that I don’t have what it takes. I can will it, but I can’t do it. I decide to do good, but I don’t really do it; I decide not to do bad, but then I do it anyway. My decisions, such as they are, don’t result in actions. Something has gone wrong deep within me and gets the better of me every time.
21-23 It happens so regularly that it’s predictable. The moment I decide to do good, sin is there to trip me up. I truly delight in God’s commands, but it’s pretty obvious that not all of me joins in that delight. Parts of me covertly rebel, and just when I least expect it, they take charge.
24 I’ve tried everything and nothing helps. I’m at the end of my rope. Is there no one who can do anything for me? Isn’t that the real question?
25 The answer, thank God, is that Jesus Christ can and does. He acted to set things right in this life of contradictions where I want to serve God with all my heart and mind, but am pulled by the influence of sin to do something totally different.
Be honest with God. He is GOOD, you know. He will change you from having your feelings into knowing His Will in your life. And more–HE will give you HIS strength to live in that Will rather than your feelings. WE cannot stop this Great And Horrible War, but we can’t stop becoming another casualty by asking HIM to change our “want to”, which is nothing more than our feelings, into Will; and Satan can’t stop that Will. He tried in the Garden of Gethsemane–and failed. He tried on that cruel Cross–and failed. And he tried in that Tomb–AND HE FAILED! Daddy’s Grace is the field hospital where our wounds are tended and our hearts are mended. . .and our feelings are transformed into HIS WILL!
Continue then, to love God with all your heart. Love others the way Jesus loves you. And make sure all the glory goes to HIM!
Your life has a story and you are telling it–with your words, values, attitudes and actions. What story are you telling?
Telling stories. No, not telling “untruths”. Growing up as a preacher’s kid, we were allowed to say the word “Liar!” It was appropriate, and thus avoiding “the look” from Dad, to say, “You’re telling a story!” That’s not what I’m writing about this morning.
I’m talking about telling a story, revealing a storyline, you know, revealing things about your own life. I’ve been fascinated with body art. I said “Body Art”, not body sculpting. I have too much flab and too many scars to enter that world. Most call them tattoos. For some time now, I’ve engaged in dialogue with people who have body art.
While some of those with body art have told me they just like it, I have found many more who are telling a story in their body art. They are stories of hope, joy, sadness and even failure. But it’s their story and the way they tell their story. Well, a little over a week ago, I went to see a local Body Art specialist. Oh, come on, don’t you think I know those passages in Leviticus?
You Leviticus folks will not like this next picture, and feel free to judge me all you want. It will give those other folks you judge a break from your indignation. I wanted something that would tell a story from my life. And it was really easy to decide how I wanted to begin my story through Body Art.
The Cross is at the core of my story. And those two blood drops? One drop was for me, the other blood drop was for you. Frankly, I choose this act as a way to remind me of…well ME! I’m worthless and nothing without the Cross of Jesus. Now I carry with me the reminder that how I act, what I say and what I do needs to be aligned with The Cross.
Jewelry and wristbands can be taken off so that I’m not reminded of my propensity to sin. But this? It’s always there to remind me!
For my part, I am going to boast about nothing but the Cross of our Master, Jesus Christ. Because of that Cross, I have been crucified in relation to the world, set free from the stifling atmosphere of pleasing others and fitting into the little patterns that they dictate. Can’t you see the central issue in all this? It is not what you and I do—submit to circumcision, reject circumcision. It is what God is doing, and he is creating something totally new, a free life! All who walk by this standard are the true Israel of God—his chosen people. Peace and mercy on them! Quite frankly, I don’t want to be bothered anymore by these disputes. I have far more important things to do—the serious living of this faith. I bear in my body scars from my service to Jesus.Galatians 6:14-17 (The Message)
There are many ways to tell my story of God’s Grace. I want to use all the means I can to tell that Story. And my story isn’t finished. If you did not pick up on that last sentence, I am going to have some more added. I’ll share that with you as it happens.
I’m out telling my story–sometimes I do it with excellence and sometimes….well sometimes not so well. YOU have a story to tell. Your life has a story and you are telling it–with your words, values, attitudes and actions. What story are you telling? Me? I’m telling the story of The Cross–my place in THAT Story and best of all, my future because I’ve chosen to enter into the Storyline of God’s Amazing Grace!
Love God with all your heart. Love others the way Jesus loves you. And make sure all the glory goes to Him!
When We Follow The Directions But Without The Heart Of God—We Become The Refuser Of Festivities—And The Consumer Of Blessings
We are looking at the process of discovering God’s vision for you and this church, to discover God’s purpose for this place. To do this, I want us to look at a couple of examples we need to learn from: Jonah and Esther. Today, let’s look at Jonah 1:1-5
1 The Lord gave this message to Jonah son of Amittai: 2 “Get up and go to the great city of Nineveh. Announce my judgment against it because I have seen how wicked its people are.”
3 But Jonah got up and went in the opposite direction to get away from the Lord. He went down to the port of Joppa, where he found a ship leaving for Tarshish. He bought a ticket and went on board, hoping to escape from the Lord by sailing to Tarshish.
4 But the Lord hurled a powerful wind over the sea, causing a violent storm that threatened to break the ship apart. 5 Fearing for their lives, the desperate sailors shouted to their gods for help and threw the cargo overboard to lighten the ship. But all this time Jonah was sound asleep down in the hold.
When God gives us a Recalculating Moment, He does so to transform us into what can only be described as Becoming Peculiar People. In other words—to stand out from everything else. Always to be different from the world. But sometimes God’s Recalculating Moment is for us to be different from the Religious Culture.
Don’t you want to be a peculiar people? The phrase is Peter’s, from the King James Version of 1 Peter 2:9: “But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a Peculiar People; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.”
In Greek, the phrase A Peculiar People means “a purchased possession”—something that uniquely belongs to God, acquired at great cost. We are to be Holy Oddities—Sacred Misfits. You can’t make heads or tails of us unless you bring God into the equation. But we’re going to look at one way to not be peculiar.
It’s the story of Jonah. When I was a child in Sunday School, I heard the story of Jonah from the perspective that here is a hero of the faith. At first, he didn’t want to go—in fact he would rather die than go. But God showed grace in the form of this big fish.
Jonah changed his mind and would go. The Hero, right? Wrong. Jonah refused God’s Recalculating Moment at first. Eventually he followed God’s Recalculating Moment, but he did so without The Heart Of God. Jonah shows us that it’s not enough to simply change direction. Here’s the Lessons he teaches:
1. Jonah Was A Prophet Who Wanted Nothing To Do With God.
Jonah—his name means dove. Ironic, isn’t it? Jonah’s name doesn’t fit his heart nor his attitude. Biblically, the dove was a sign of hope and peace. In the Old Testament, Doves represented hope, renewal, grace, beauty, innocence, swiftness, sacrifice, peace and good news. In the New Testament, the dove is one of the principal symbols of the Holy Spirit—a sign from Heaven. Jesus instructed his followers to be “harmless as doves.”
Hope. Renewal. Grace. Beauty. Innocence. Spirit. Swiftness. Sacrifice. Good News. Peace. Jonah is none of this. Jonah’s no dove! He’s a hawk, a vulture. Jonah’s a harbinger of judgment, a conjurer of despair, and a herald of bad news. He’s a scrappy, noisy, crow! And that’s the point. Jonah is a prophet that wants nothing to do with God. He’s an evangelist who wants nothing to do with the lost—except to see them punished and banished. Jonah Is A Portrait Of Those Who Were A People Of God But Who Have Lost The Heart Of God.
He’s a picture of a person who is Christian in name only—not in character, conduct, or conviction. He is an example of what happens to many Christians and many churches—we get turned in on ourselves, self-satisfied, self-indulgent, and happy to let the world go to hell. Jonah avoids sinners. When that’s no longer possible, he crusades against them, picketing their towns.
He first tries to ignore their existence, then he protests against them, and then he seeks to annihilate them altogether. If I had to identify the primary question that drives the Book of Jonah, it’s this: Will Jonah Ever Learn To Be A Dove, Not Just In Name But Also In Heart? And that’s the question the church must continually wrestle with: Will We Ever Learn To Be Christian, Not Just In Name But Also In Heart? This is Lesson 1 from Jonah.
2. Jonah Rejects God’s Word.
The Book of Jonah begins with a miracle—God speaks to Jonah. But Jonah resents and resists the word of the Lord, finding it to be a mighty inconvenience. It doesn’t fit into his plan. It doesn’t meet his expectations. It doesn’t agree with his beliefs. But the word comes anyway.
The miracle is that the word of the Lord still breaks in on those who have long given up listening for it or attending to it; it still comes to those who have not hungered and thirsted for it for years—if ever!
The word that comes to Jonah is firm and fixed: Go. Jonah is to proclaim the Word of the Lord to Nineveh. Nineveh was the capital of the blood thirsty Assyrians. They are the enemy. Jonah is called to go to the enemy. But the crucial thing is how God sees this enemy.
First of all, He sees they are wicked. In fact, their wickedness has come up before God and reached a tipping point in heaven. God’s had enough; He’s going to act.
But notice the second thing God sees in Nineveh—she is a great city. Her greatness is not just in sheer physical size. The Hebrew word used in the text means more than magnitude. It speaks of importance and weightiness. Nineveh’s greatness is her potential—if only she turned from her wickedness.
Unless We See People, Towns, Cities, Cultures, Civilizations, Neighbors, And Strangers As God Sees Them, We Will Never Experience God’s Heart For Them. If all we miss seeing their greatness, we’ll miss their potential, and the dreams God has for them.
Jonah only sees Nineveh’s wickedness and refuses to see her potential for greatness, so he runs away. He is called to something too hard, so he flees. This is where the story gets interesting. Jonah doesn’t just flee the call of God or sidestep his assignment; he tries to escape God’s presence. Verse 3: Jonah…went in the opposite direction to get away from the Lord.
Jonah is more than disobedient—he’s practically an atheist! Jonah wants to live as though God does not exist—or at least as if God has no claim on him. Those Who Have A Jonah Heart Want God’s Blessing But Want Nothing To Do With Either God’s Purposes Or Presence. Jonah is not a worshiper—he avoids God’s presence. He’s not a follower—he avoids God’s call,. Jonah is a Consumer Of Blessings.
This Jonah heart is in each of us. We all face a constant temptation to demand God’s blessing but avoid obedience and service. Entire church communities can have a desire to seek God’s blessing, but not His Face or His Kingdom. Entire churches are sometimes preoccupied only with What’s In It For Me.
Entire churches are tempted to be consumers but not worshipers or followers. When that happens, everyone is impoverished. The church—which is to be the very body of Christ in the world, becomes just another country club—bored, snobbish and flabby. The world that so desperately needs the gospel of Christ is left to stew in its own juices. When A Church Craves God’s Blessing But Shuns His Presence And Avoids His Purpose—It Has Lost Its Heart For God.
Let’s finish the story, and see why Jonah isn’t a hero. Jonah flees, but he doesn’t get every far. He books passage on a ship bound for Tarshish—a city at the edge of the known world. Here’s something I learned just this week about the name Tarshish. According to the New Unger’s Bible Dictionary, Tarshish is a Phoenician word from the Akkadian meaning Smelting Plant Or Refinery. In biblical times, metals were obtained from the ore by fire. He’s trying his best to get as far away as he possibly can.
But Jonah jumps out of the pan and into the fire. God Pursues Jonah Through A Storm, Still Wanting Jonah’s Heart The sailors on the boat force Jonah to confess his identity, and they discover that he’s the source of the trouble.
At Jonah’s request, they throw him into the sea. Jonah is suicidal. God sends a large fish to swallow Jonah whole. Three days later, the large fish spews him up on the shore. Jonah, duly chastised, heads to Nineveh and does his duty. He only does it because the pain of God’s chastisement is greater that his desire to run away.
He preaches fire and brimstone and then goes and camps on the outskirts of Nineveh, waiting for God’s fireworks to fall on the city and its people. But something strange takes place. The king of Nineveh hears Jonah’s message, and he’s broken in his heart. He puts on sackcloth and ashes and calls on the city to fast, pray, repent, and trust God’s mercy. The entire city turns to God, and God shows mercy. And Jonah couldn’t be more miserable.
Jonah is a representative of a class of people we meet in the pages of Scripture, in the drama of life, and in the pews of our churches. He is a Refuser Of Festivities. He misses the grace of God and lets bitterness take root. Like the older brother in the parable of the Prodigal Son, he won’t join the party; he won’t live in grace.
God is involved in an extravagant, surprising, mercy-drenched business—seeking and saving those who are lost, throwing feasts once they’re found—but Jonah and his ilk sit on the sidelines and sulk about how hard God is on them and how soft he is on everyone else. They stew about things taken away from them, and things they never wanted others to have that God has given to them without measure.
In C. S. Lewis’ story, The Silver Chair, a selfish little girl named Jill asks the great lion Aslan—the story’s Christ figure—if he eats girls. Aslan responds, “I have swallowed boys and girls, men and women, kings and kingdoms.” And here is an even more interesting question: Has He swallowed you?
How are you handling God’s Recalculating Moments in your life? With joy? Or with the resentment of Jonah?
- Remember that to follow God’s directions, we have to change our direction. And to change our direction, we need to bring along the right attitude. What needs to change with your attitude?
- It’s done by putting aside our fear of failing or the uncertainty of how it will happen. Don’t wait for someone else to step up. It’s time for you to step out.
We all deserve to be punished for our sins, but Jesus took that well-deserved punishment upon Himself as He hung on that cross.
Well, things are really shaking and moving in California; and not in a good way. My heart goes out to all those impacted by this disaster. I’ve read a lot about “experts” saying this may well be the prelude to “The Big One.” Excuse me, now I’ve only experienced a few minor tremors (yes, in Alabama we do have earthquakes, small ones, but it was still an earthquake), but what could be bigger than a 7.1? Gee whiz, geologists, thanks for adding to their fear.
But those comments are not the cause of me writing this morning. It was a question posed by someone in a Facebook group of which I am a member. This person asked the group, “Do you think this earthquake is the result of God’s judgement against the people of California?” This picture must have been the expression on my face when I read it.
Being a Disaster Response Coordinator for my local Tribe, this and similar statements irk me on the scale of a 10.7. When a person goes through a natural disaster, they don’t need The Disaster of Poor Theology. Statements like:
- “God needed them more than we did.”
- “It was just things.”
- “We have to accept it as God’s will even if we don’t understand or like it.”
- “You’re young, you can always find someone else.”
- “God just wanted your attention.”
- “If y’all don’t repent, something worse is going to happen.”
- I could go on, but I won’t….
Even as I’m writing, I remember something very dumb I said back in the early 80’s when I was in seminary. The Aids crisis was growing and I asked a fellow pastor, whom I looked up to because he was conservative like me, “Don’t you think this Aids epidemic is God’s punishment?” Even now, I’m hanging my head in shame for even allowing that thought to remain in my head. His response caught me off guard. “NO! All our punishments were put on Jesus while He was on the cross!” He then gently addressed my Poor Theology; and I’ve never forgotten it. Come to think of it, his facial expression was just like that picture above.
To say this latest earthquake is God punishing California, qualifies you for membership in that Wacko Westboro Baptist Cult. Look, maybe you or someone you know is going through a difficult time–a disaster if you will. Maybe you are thinking, “God is punishing me and I deserve it.” Well, you are half right.
We all deserve to be punished for our sins, but Jesus took that well-deserved punishment upon Himself as He hung on that cross. The prophet Isaiah foretold this truth:
Yet it was our weaknesses he carried; it was our sorrows that weighed him down. And we thought his troubles were a punishment from God, a punishment for his own sins! But he was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole. He was whipped so we could be healed.Isaiah 53:4-5 (NLT)
The next time you see someone going through a disaster–be it a natural disaster, man-made disaster, a spiritual disaster that resulted from poor choices in their life–don’t look at them and think, “Well, they got what they deserved.” And don’t you dare say it! Instead, be broken and cry for them. Then get up and do something to help rebuild their lives.
Yes, God disciplines–He disciplines those whom He loves and who loves Him. But disasters are not acts of discipline. They are reflections of our current reality–that we and our natural world are infected, affected and broken by sin. Not just Adam and Eve’s sin, but our sin as well. If you think God is punishing California, get your emergency kits out because He is about to punish you, too.
Love God with all your heart. Love others the way Jesus loves you. And make sure all the glory goes to HIM!
Death Isn’t The Reminder To Get Ready For Heaven. It’s The Challenge To Live Today.
Job 19:23-27 (NLT)
23 “Oh, that my words could be recorded. Oh, that they could be inscribed on a monument, 24 carved with an iron chisel and filled with lead, engraved forever in the rock.
25 “But as for me, I know that my Redeemer lives, and He will stand upon
the earth at last. 26 And
after my body has decayed,
yet in my body I will see God! 27 I will see him for myself.
Yes, I will see him with my own eyes. I am overwhelmed at the thought!
As we conclude our D-Day Series, I hope that there have been some hearts that have been tugged. Maybe a few cheeks are a little wet. Many of you have expressed appreciate for tackling this series because…well…because you have been invaded by 1 or more these D-Days.
I promised you that what I would share, would come out of my own experiences. And this has been true, up until today. This is a D-Day Invasion I Haven’t Had—But I Know That One Day I Will.
Today we aren’t talking so much about the difficulty of death but of the hope we can have here in this life, as we know Christ—the hope that invades our lives. Even when loved ones die after a long life, or those who have had their lives cut way to short, there is this thing called Peace that only comes through our Heavenly Father.
Even though there may be sadness of a recent death of someone in your life, my hope is that you will leave with a song of praise in your heart because you know where real hope and peace come from. Listen to these names, and let me ask you a question. All of the names have something in common. Try to figure it out:
Apostle Paul: Greatest missionary to have ever lived! Adolph Hitler: Ruthless dictator and slaughterer of millions. Mother Teresa: Sweet nun and caretaker of the world’s poor. General George Patton: Great WW2 Leader. Mary, The Mother Of Jesus: Enough said. Moses: Great leader of Israel; Elvis Presley: King of Rock and Roll. Dale Earnhardt: The Intimidator of racing. Princess Diana: Royalty and compassion filled her life and her calling. Ted Williams: One the greatest baseball players ever. Todd Beamer: Average guy on Flight 93.
Do you have it in your mind? What do all of these famous & infamous people have in common? They have all experienced the D-Day invasion of Death! They have experienced it and some have mourned their death. They died because of natural causes, accidents, war, disease, tragedy—but all died. Death—it’s the great equalizer.
It’s not a respecter of persons. It doesn’t matter how wealthy or poor you are, educated or uneducated, death is something that all of us will have to face one day.
No matter how common death is, when you lose a loved one, especially a child, I am not sure that there is any way to ever fully prepare for that. I am not going to attempt to do that today. I think when death comes to those who had a lot of life in front of them; it’s just a hard and difficult thing. Death of a loved one can’t be shrugged off. But Death is not the enemy of the survivor’s soul.
Here’s the one thing you need to remember from today’s message: Death Isn’t The Reminder To Get Ready For Heaven. It’s The Challenge To Live Today. We Can Be Prepared In Such A Way That We Can Face Our Moment Of Extreme Mortality And Survive The Loss Of Someone In Our Life.
We can get through this D-Day invasion of death. More importantly today, as we talk about the death of someone close and our own destiny with death, we can be prepared. It doesn’t matter what age a person is, one day you will experience the D-Day invasion of death and you can prepare and understand how to survive in this thing called death.
I want to talk about how we can survive but also, more importantly for each individual that you would understand that one day you are going to die. Are you prepared for death? It may be that some of you here today, you’re sitting right here and you have no assurance of a future hope after this life is over.
If some were to be honest with themselves, they would say, “I do not understand eternity. I do not understand where I will spend eternity when I die.”
I think all of us in our hearts understand that there is an eternity. For many of us here, if your life was really dealt a death blow of a loved one, it would really cripple us. We wouldn’t know where our hope would come from.
How can you and I survive the agony of losing a loved one? How can we know we will survive our own death? It Almost Sounds Like An Oxymoron—Surviving Death. But after death, there is eternity to be lived.
What We Think About God And His Son, And The Ways We Commit To God And Jesus, Will Determine Where We Spend Eternity. Here on this earth, when we experience the death of a loved one, it is the same truth that gets us up the next day.
I want you to turn to John 14, read it, listen to it. I’m going to build on what Job had to say about death.
1. Believe In God’s Way!
“Don’t let your hearts be troubled…”John 14:1a (NLT)
That word, Troubled—it means “to agitate”. It means to take away our calm and peace. Think about an agitator in a washing machine. It stirs everything up—sometimes twisting and tying clothes in a knot. That’s what the thought of death does to us when we are confronted with our mortality—without that relationship with God.
The best way to deal with death of a loved or to understand our own mortality is to trust in God—to believe in God’s way. Somewhere in your life you will have to recognize that God is the Almighty Creator and He is ultimately in control of our lives and the whole world. None of you are here on this day for this message by accident.
Maybe you have been trying to understand your own mortality and you have been wondering. “Can I have a personal relationship with God? How would I handle it if someone close to me were to die?” God is not the initiator of evil. He does allow it. We need to understand this: God Is In Ultimate Control And Is Able To Redeem Any And Every Moment To Bring Out Something Good. There is comfort in that.
He Also Has An Ultimate Purpose For Our Lives. Do you know what that purpose is? Boil it all down—you are the loving creation of our great God. To believe in God’s way is to understand that He loves you unconditionally and He wants to have a relationship with you. This one little simple truth brings hope because it means we have a loving God who desires a relationship even with us! When things are going so well, we see this world and think, “This is it! Nothing could get better.”
But God says, “Believe In My Way. This Is Only A Glimpse Of Paradise. Are You Enjoying This Life? I Have Set Aside, For Those Who Believe In Me As Their God, A Place Called Paradise!” Paradise is the place promised the thief on the cross, and it means “garden”—it’s the same word to describe the place where Adam & Eve were before the fall—that beautiful place of relationship with Father, Son and Spirit.
God’s way for you and for me is to know true peace and hope through a personal relationship with God. To be in a loving relationship with him made possible by the death of his son, Jesus Christ! That day, the Creator died for His creation. Second,
2. Trust Your Life To Jesus!
“Trust in God, and trust also in Me. 2 There is more than enough room in My Father’s home. If this were not so, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you?”John 14 Vs. 1b-2 (NLT)
This Is The Classic Hope Found In A Relationship With Christ, To Trust Our Life To God’s Son Jesus. He was saying, “Listen, trust in God—believe in God as the Almighty Creator—but also, trust in me.” Why Jesus? Because He Is The Incarnation Of God Here On Earth.
God loves us so much that He came to earth as Emmanuel, God with us. God came and walked among us so that He could die for us. Isn’t that amazing? Our creator God came to die for us. Listen to this—In John 14:6 when Jesus says about himself:
“I Am The Way, The Truth, And The Life. No One Can Come To The Father Except Through Me.”
To be able to reach the Father, we have to acknowledge our sin, acknowledge our inability to get rid of it and stop being controlled by sin. The ONLY way this happens is by giving our life to Jesus—trusting our life to Jesus. We can give up on God—but God never gives up on us.
When We Say YES To Jesus, God Gives Us Eternal Life, Not Because We’re Good, But Because GOD IS GOOD! We can work through our grief when we lose someone close, because if they said YES to Jesus, we will see them again! And if they haven’t? We have Jesus living inside us through the Spirit to help us through our grief.
3. Rest In God’s Presence In You, The Holy Spirit!
“But when the Father sends the Advocate as My representative—that is, the Holy Spirit—He will teach you everything and will remind you of everything I have told you.”John 14:26 (NLT)
All through the New Testament, the Bible uses different words for the Holy Spirit. Sometimes He is called The Counselor Who Guides Us With The Wisdom Of Eternity. He’s the person who helps us understand. He is also the Great Comforter that Gives Peace And Hope. He holds us close to His heart to protect us from the pain and despair from this broken world we live in.
Nothing Causes God To Fret Or Worry. This Is The Presence That Lives In Every Follower Of Jesus. The best part of being in a personal relationship with God is to understand that God is always there. There is a hope and sincerity—I can’t even explain it to teach it. It is just something about being in personal relationship with God.
Let me ask you another question. It has to be a question that you take to heart. When Death Comes To Invade Your Life, Will You Know Peace Or Will You Know Mayhem? Where does your hope come from? Does it come from your bank account, your job, your family, your country? Those things will all be gone when you’re gone. What about eternal hope? What about eternal peace? Where does it come from?
Throughout this series, I have shared with you how to survive some D-Day invasions — disillusionment, defeat, divorce and depression. All of what we said this whole series hinges on Your Personal Relationship With God.
Let me be very clear, for anyone who has never given their life to God, why not right now, simply Put Your Hand In His Hands.
That’s all, but it makes a world of difference in your life now, and an eternity of difference in your life after death.
Are you struggling with fresh grief? Are you at war with old grief, grief that just won’t go away? Jesus understands this and has something for you. It is what Jesus said and did for the Disciples after The Resurrection. In John 20:21-22 Jesus says: “Again he said, ‘Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, so I am sending you.’ Then he breathed on them and said, ‘Receive the Holy Spirit’.”
- To Conquer Death, Make Sure You Are In A Relationship with God—not with what you know about God.
- Don’t Wait Until You Die To Start Living.
And we know how Life Conquers Death, and we know how To Start Living Now at the sacramental table we call Holy Communion. Here we see and taste that His Death defeats Death in Us Now—and when that moment comes—His Resurrection defeats our death.
Grace without a lifetime of transformation??? It’s not real. It’s not grace.
This morning, I was “provoked” to write. It was another provocation by the Holy Spirit. And as is His habit, He provoked me through another person. It happened as I was reading the blog See, There’s This Thing Called Biology (click here to read insanitybytes thoughts). It was the one she calls “Why Do We Hate Grace?”
It made me think about the Great Debate going on in my Tribe, the United Methodist Church. While some have chosen to make it a debate about human sexuality, I see that it is something much more that this single issue. The real issue is Grace. There are some within our Orthodox Camp who show little grace to those who are struggling with their identity, but I’ll leave their narrow view of grace to another post.
I’m talking about the artificial grace from those with a progressive persuasion. They claim that because of grace, sin needs to be redefined. At the core is that the suffering of Jesus was designed to free a person from that nasty thing called sin. Grace gives us the authority to redefine everything. Not so fast, Buckeroo.
The grace that condones and encourages anyone to live outside God’s Intended Design, is not Real Grace, rather a prosthetic grace. I have nothing but deep respect admiration for our Wounded Warriors and others who have lost a limb and then proceed to live their life to the fullest through the use of that prosthetic limb. If you are one of these, know that you inspire me to do better, BE better.
But to insist that there is a form of grace that allows us to live by our desires, our feelings, our understandings–well, it’s not really grace. What I see is a progressive grace that denies people the opportunity to experience God’s Power of Transformation. And thus, their theology ceases to be progressive…it becomes regressive. Perhaps this explains the aggressive behavior of many within the progressive camp.
Listening to the stories of those who have those prosthetic limbs, I hear the difficulties and pain involved in learning to use these marvelous devices. Ask anyone who is required to use a prosthetic limb, “Which would you rather have, the real limb or prosthetic limb?”, and I believe that would answer, “The real one, of course.”
This false grace being promoted is filled with both difficulties and pain. False grace leaves no room for the true purpose of Grace–which is to engage us in a lifelong process of transformation. It is telling people you are a prisoner to your desires and feelings. And to the LBGTQI+ community I say, “God loves you, period. But His GRACE is made to liberate you from your feelings and desires about who you want to have sex with. You are not identified by your sexual desires. You are identified by the person God wants to make you. Because God is good, He will transform you into someone beautiful and wonderful.”
Grace without a lifetime of transformation??? It’s not real. It’s not grace. It’s a prosthetic to replace the real.
And remember to love God with all your heart. Love others the way Jesus loves you. And make sure all the glory goes to Him!
Divorce Is A Sin, But It Never Disqualifies You From Serving God.
Job 3:20-26 (NLT)
20 “Oh, why give light to those in misery, and life to those who are bitter? 21 They long for death, and it won’t come. They search for death more eagerly than for hidden treasure.
22 They’re filled with joy when they finally die, and rejoice when they find the grave. 23 Why is life given to those with no future, those God has surrounded with difficulties?
24 I cannot eat for sighing; my groans pour out like water. 25 What I always feared has happened to me. What I dreaded has come true. 26 I have no peace, no quietness. I have no rest; only trouble comes.”
Let me set up today’s message with an image from the novel by Nathaniel Hawthorne, “The Scarlet Letter” set in Boston in the Puritan era. It’s the story of a woman who conceived after committing adultery. Because of her act she was forced to wear the Scarlet letter “A” stitched on her clothes. It was the religious community’s attempt to fill her with shame.
There’s another Scarlet letter that many of us have worn—The Scarlet Letter D! When we launched this series called Surviving Your D-Day Invasions, we said that each of the attacks we would discuss come as a sneak invasion from a hostile enemy. When you look at today’s topic of Divorce, we know that to be true. In this series, we are looking at the Old Testament story of a man named Job. Job did not experience divorce, but these words he wrote fit those of us who have. I also said that we would be walking through my own personal story. Here is the one thing I ask you to remember:
Divorce Is A Sin, But It Never Disqualifies You From Serving God.
Today we’ll be talking about the darkest time in my life. This is the most difficult message I have ever had to prepare or deliver. I realize this message will not apply to all of you. But maybe you know someone with someone who has faced or is facing The Scarlet D.
The first time I did this series was 2003. When God first started working on me about this series and today’s topic, you have no idea how I resisted. At the time Vicky and I had been separated, a fact known by only a very few people. Before that, we have been sleeping in separate rooms, living separate lives. God has an amazing sense of timing. The first time I did this message was 1 week after I announced to the congregation I served, that we filed for Divorce.
And even now, I still have difficulty sharing these thoughts with you. Today is deeply personal, a reflection of what I learned as I dealt with the fact of Divorce in my life. I never said, “Let’s try this thing called marriage, and 29 years later, if it doesn’t work out, we’ll get a Divorce.” But sometimes, in spite of our best intentions, the path of our lives takes an unexpected turn.
Of all the “D’s” of the D-Day Invasions, Divorce can be overwhelmingly painful. It sneaks up on two people who began a union deeply in love. They had dreams and aspirations of what their marriage could be and should be. For the most part, they thought their marriage would last forever. That is until one day, when the D-Day Invasion of Divorce lands right in the middle of their home.
Maybe some of you here have personally experienced the D-Day Invasion of Divorce. Some of you may have seen the results of that invasion in your parent’s Divorce. All of us have probably had friends, close friends, whose marriage became 1 of the unfortunate statistics of our culture.
Many people are dealing with the pain, turmoil and rejection that come with Divorce. Believers, non-believers, seekers—the D-Day Invasion Of Divorce cuts across all lines. And because of deep misunderstanding, the church only adds to the pain.
Once we are faced with the Invasion of Divorce, how can we survive? How can we discard this Scarlet D? Many people feel hopeless, confused and rejected. I looked at my failed marriage and I felt like a total failure. God’s plan for marriage is for a lifetime.
But God also understands that we are human, we have feet of clay. So, how do we move beyond the hurt, beyond the humiliation, beyond the pain, beyond the uncertainty of this D-Day Invasion? Allow me to share 4 things with you that I believe work together. Follow these steps all the way through. Here they are:
1. Accept Only Your Responsibility
Somewhere down the line, you’re going to have to attach some responsibility. In all Divorce cases, one or both people were responsible. Someone screwed up; someone made a mistake. It may not be you but it was someone. This once perfect thing now has division. You cannot speak of Divorce in generalities; each case must be examined in its own situation.
Who is responsible? Why did it happen? Owning responsibility is the key to surviving the D-Day Invasion of Divorce. Accepting only your responsibility is the key to giving and accepting forgiveness where it’s needed. Responsibility has to be attached, but through a lot of prayer, discernment, and sometimes even counseling. Last week we talked about learning from failure. The way we are to learn from failure is to know what’s wrong, attach responsibility for our part, learn from our mistakes and move on.
That’s what we need to do here. Some of the most happily married people I know are people who have learned from their past mistakes. However, we know the statistics, don’t we? 67% of people who Divorce once will Divorce again. Most second marriages fail also. 73% of third marriages end in Divorce.
There has to be something there. Be Careful Not To Take On Someone Else’s Responsibilities. False Guilt Will Eventually Affect All Our Relationships. But I caution you, don’t stop here. Don’t hold on to the Deadly G’s: Guilt And Grudges. If Divorce is the only recourse, then it’s time to move beyond guilt, and give up our grudges. The second step is:
2. Work Toward Forgiveness
Once we understand who is responsible, we can begin to work toward forgiveness. We understand that true healing requires forgiveness for wrongs done. Forgiveness must be accepted and must be given. Some people say, “That’s crazy! There is no way I’ll forgive that person—it’s too difficult.” You are right.
It’s very, very hard. You may be the only one that wants to work on forgiveness. When we have been hurt and wronged we will never be healed until we forgive. You don’t have to walk up to that ex-spouse and announce your forgiveness. But you have to do it in your heart. Forgiveness is saying, “I Refuse To Hold On To The Pain. I Refuse To Live In The Past. I Release Them From Holding Me Captive To Any Grudge Or Pain.”
You must also learn to forgive yourself. As you work through the responsibility part of Divorce, you may find that some of the blame lies with you. I know there were times when I was uncaring. There were especially times when I was too busy.
But I ended up taking a lot of the responsibility that wasn’t mine to take. The result was that I could not forgive myself. But in order to offer forgiveness and receive forgiveness, I had to forgive myself. I do not know about you, but this was the hardest thing for me. I ended up carrying a lot of guilt I didn’t have to carry around. If you have guilt, you must forgive yourself. This was the hardest for me. I wouldn’t do it until I remembered: We Must Accept Forgiveness From God. For those of us who are believers, we understand this. No matter what we’ve done, He died on the cross two thousand years ago, and in him we are forgiven AND Cleansed.
All we have to do is accept his grace and forgiveness and the slate is wiped clean. You must accept forgiveness for yourself, and give forgiveness to the other person.
3. Allow Kids To Stay Relationally Connected
We need to make sure that if kids are involved in this D-Day Invasion of Divorce, that we encourage them to stay relationally connected to both parents. Kids of all ages are the biggest victims in Divorce.
Kids of Divorce go through confusion and pain when their parents got divorced. They wondered if it was their fault. There is no sense of closure to it. It’s true for even adult kids. Kids of all ages need to stay connected with both parents. It’s the best thing for the kids.
Let Your Kids See You Living Out Forgiveness. Teach them, by your example, about owning up to your mistakes and about receiving and giving the grace of God. Let them see you working to live at peace with your ex-spouse. Here is a powerful opportunity to bring something good out of something horrible.
If you, or a family member, or close friend experiences the D-Day of Divorce, and there are children involved, even grown children, it’s important for them to see the spirit of grace, the spirit of forgiveness and reconciliation at work. Don’t Take Sides, Be A Model Of God’s Grace. Finally, in order to move beyond the pain, and experience healing and wholeness:
4. Align Your Different Life With God’s Principles
In my nearly 44 years of working in ministry, I’ve never met a person who didn’t want their second marriage to work. There is only one way to do it, friends.
That is to align our different life with God’s principles. Many of us just need to understand that we’ve tried it our way and failed, now maybe we should follow God’s plan. If you follow God’s principles for sex, dating and marriage, you can have a very happy marriage.
Do you ever feel like you have The Scarlet D pinned to your shirt? That you could never be normal again in God’s eyes because of this thing called Divorce? Maybe there’s another Scarlet Letter pinned to your shirt. Maybe yours is the Scarlet A—Addict, Adultery Abuser, Abused. Maybe you know someone with the Scarlet L—Loser. Maybe yours is the Scarlet S—Sinner! I want to leave you with this last verse and encourage you to align your new life with God’s principles.
2 Corinthians 5:16-17 says: In Christ We Are New Creations; The Old Is Gone, And New Has Come!
Grace is all about a fresh start. Do you need a fresh start? God has one for every person who is wearing any Scarlet Letter. He will take that letter off of you and you will never have to wear again.
- . If You Are Living With Shame Put On You By Family, Church, Or Even Yourself Because Of Divorce, Bring That Shame To Jesus Right Now. The shame of anyone who wears The Scarlet D was carried by Jesus so that you do not have to carry it anymore. No sin that anyone commits ever disqualifies them from both a relationship with God and the opportunity to be called by Him to serve Him.
- If You Have Been Through Divorce Or Not, Read The Scriptures About Divorce WITHOUT Whatever You Have Been Taught About It. Take 2 steps in your reading. First, ask the Holy Spirit to be your guide and teacher. Second, read those passages within the big picture of what God is seeking to do with ALL who have sinned. Our God is focusing on both Redemption, and Restoration, making people useful for His Kingdom. God chose Saul the murderer to become Paul the Apostle to the Gentiles. If God can use a murderer, why can’t He use someone divorced in any role He wants?
God speaks of his relationship with you in permanent, irrevocable terms of adoption, ransom and guarantee. God chooses you, and that will never change.
I remember playground games. Whether it was softball, kick-ball, football or dodge ball, we would divide into teams. Sometimes the teacher would select captains, sometimes 2 would just volunteer. But one thing I remember most, is that in the process of selecting teams, no one wanted to be the last person picked. It meant people didn’t see much in you, that you lacked the skill necessary to be a vital part of the team. Being picked last was often humiliating. As we celebrate Communion, I want you to know that in God’s eyes you are never the last person picked for God’s team! Let’s look at today’s passage from Ephesians 1:3-14 found in The Message
3-6 How blessed is God! And what a blessing He is! He’s the Father of our Master, Jesus Christ, and takes us to the high places of blessing in Him. Long before He laid down earth’s foundations, He had us in mind, had settled on us as the focus of His love, to be made whole and holy by His love. Long, long ago He decided to adopt us into his family through Jesus Christ. (What pleasure He took in planning this!) He wanted us to enter into the celebration of His lavish gift-giving by the hand of His beloved Son.
7-10 Because of the sacrifice of the Messiah, His blood poured out on the altar of the Cross, we’re a free people—free of penalties and punishments chalked up by all our misdeeds. And not just barely free, either. Abundantly free!
He thought of everything, provided for everything we could possibly need, letting us in on the plans He took such delight in making. He set it all out before us in Christ, a long-range plan in which everything would be brought together and summed up in Him, everything in deepest heaven, everything on planet earth.
11-12 It’s in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Long before we first heard of Christ and got our hopes up, He had his eye on us, had designs on us for glorious living, part of the overall purpose He is working out in everything and everyone.
13-14 It’s in Christ that you, once you heard the truth and believed it (this Message of your salvation), found yourselves home free—signed, sealed, and delivered by the Holy Spirit. This signet from God is the first installment on what’s coming, a reminder that we’ll get everything God has planned for us, a praising and glorious life.
Today is the most important day in your life. Not yesterday, not tomorrow, not next week or next year. This leads me to the one thing you need to remember from today’s message: God speaks of his relationship with you in permanent, irrevocable terms of adoption, ransom and guarantee. God chooses you, and that will never change.
If you’ve ever felt unsure about your usefulness in God’s plans or if you are acceptable to God, then I want you to pay close attention for the next few minutes, because these few verses tell you three important things about You in God’s eyes. Embrace these 3 truths into your life, you will experience a greater sense of self-worth and more spiritual confidence than you have ever known.
1. You’ve Been On God’s Mind From The Beginning.
Go back to my image of standing on the playground. At first, you were just part of a crowd, but now selections have been made and now you are standing alone, and the captain who has the last pick, says “Oh well, I guess I’ll have to take them.” I think all of us can relate to this feeling; we all know what it is like to be the last chosen—the least talented in at least some area—academically, athletically, musically, and so on. But there is an area where you never need feel that way: Your Relationship With God.
Probably all of us have wondered, at one time or another, “If they had it to do all over again, would they choose me? Would they hire me? Would she marry me?” Maybe some of you have even thought, “If Jesus had to do it over, would He die for me again?” Some of you may believe that you have been such a disappointment to God that you would have been better off not to have been born. The message from God is the exact opposite.
The message from the heart of God is that you are accepted not because He had to, but because He wanted to. You are part of His plan. From The Beginning, He Has Wanted You To Be A Member Of His Family. Whether or not you think it’s possible, the Bible makes it clear that God Believes It Is Possible. Whether or not you believe in your potential, God Believes In Your Potential. You are part of His plan.
God knew that you would be where you are today in all areas of your life. He knew you would be here at this moment and for some, it may have been a rough ride. There may have been mistakes and disappointments along the way and you may have wanted to give up many times. Even though your past may be littered with failures, it doesn’t change the fact that God Loves You, He Chooses You, And He Believes In You. You have been, are now and will always be on His mind and in His heart. This is RANSOM!
2. You Belong To God, And That Will Never Change.
This passage defines your relationship with God in permanent terms. It says, first of all, that we have been adopted. The citizens of Ephesus understood the significance of adoption, because it was common in their society. Adoption wasn’t just a case of parents choosing to provide a home for a parentless child.
Adoptions also frequently occurred for business or political reasons—for one grown man to adopt another grown man to ensure that his wealth and power were passed on in the way that he intended it to be. The Most Important Thing To Remember Is That Adoptions Were Irrevocable. A man could disown his birth son, but could not disown his adopted son. It was a permanent relationship.
Paul said, “You’ve been Adopted into the family of God. Get comfortable because He’s not going to give up on you.”
3. Everything You Need, You Can Have.
Jesus didn’t die on the cross just to abandon you now. God is generous. He doesn’t withhold His kindness, His love, His mercy, His forgiveness, His compassion, or His blessings from you. He showers you with kindness. He will lavish His generosity on you, If You Are Willing To Receive It.
It’s not just about your physical needs; he is referring to your spiritual and emotional needs as well. God will give you All The Joy You Need—All The Love You Need, All The Faith You Need, All The Mercy You Need, And Much More.
You may have spent most of your life thinking that you had to manufacture these things on your own, and that most of the time God is ticked off that you don’t do a better job at it. You may have spent most of your life thinking that God doles out blessings only with great resistance, and only to the most deserving.
The truth is, He Wants To Shower His Kindness On You. Everything you need, He wants to provide.
See your relationship with God in a new way—in a non-adversarial way. God isn’t mad at you. He isn’t sorry that He chose you. And if He had to do it over, He Would Die For You Again. Why? Before you were born, you were on His mind and IN His heart. He chooses You to be His very own. You belong with Him, and that will never change. And He will be with you every step of the way, blessing you with what you need each and every moment.
How do I know this? Even more important, how can YOU know this? You and I can know this without a doubt because the Holy Spirit is given as our guarantee. “Guarantee” Is A Term That Means The Assurance That Another’s Obligation Will Be Fulfilled.
It comes from a Hebrew word that means “a pledge”—God has made a pledge to fully restore you back to His Intended Design—To be the you He created you to be. Until that work is finished He gives us the Holy Spirit, as His Personal Pledge.
The presence of the Holy Spirit is the assurance that God’s commitment to you will not stop until the final result—We become exactly like our Intended Design—The Perfect In Every Detail Reflection Of God. We come to the table, the ONLY Table where it all starts, where we are called to live, and one day where it will be completed—the Table of Grace…
This week it’s rather simple: Find where God is at work and join with Him. After all, He has chosen you to work with Him! Or, find a place where you know God wants to work, and get started. After all, He wants you to work with Him!